Reinventing Love: How the Patriarchy Sabotages Heterosexual Relations

Reinventing Love: How the Patriarchy Sabotages Heterosexual Relations by Mona Chollet

From the internationally bestselling author of In Defense of Witches comes a bold, thought-provoking examination of modern love through a feminist lens. In Reinventing Love, acclaimed French writer and journalist Mona Chollet explores why heterosexual relationships remain a struggle for many women, even in an era of progress and empowerment.

Despite growing societal awareness of gender equality, women still face disproportionate challenges in love—whether it’s navigating dating, securing commitment, or enduring unbalanced and emotionally draining relationships. Why, in a supposedly enlightened world, do traditional power dynamics still persist behind closed doors?

Drawing from literature, pop culture, politics, and personal experience, Chollet shines a light on the deeply ingrained gender roles that shape romantic partnerships. With clarity and insight, she questions the cultural scripts we’ve inherited and offers a provocative, empowering vision for reimagining love—one rooted in equality, mutual respect, and autonomy.

💡 Reinventing Love is a must-read for fans of bell hooks, Esther Perel, and Rebecca Solnit, and for anyone ready to challenge old assumptions about romance and reclaim the language of intimacy on their own terms.